I feel like as parents we are often overwhelmed by so many things: the news seems too depressing to read or watch, our country is divided and is often bringing out the worst in people, our children’s needs and schedules usually come before our own, we are feeling like we are working just to pay the bills and have decent healthcare, we are constantly drowning in laundry, we hope that our kids go to college but that they get scholarships to pay for it, we all want dinner to magically appear at an already set dinner table and many parents are also often taking care of an elderly or ailing parent as well as raising kids. In addition to all of that, we are trying to save for our retirement and holding out the hope that by that point we will finally be able to relax, enjoy life and spoil the not yet born grandkids.
I decided that I would try to spend some time and positive energy focusing on what I do have and what brings me joy. Like many of you, I am so blessed to have been given or achieved so many wonderful things as well as being surrounded by so many kind and amazing people.
I often am so busy looking at my feet and the ground in front of me that I forget to pull my head up to look at the cool cloud formations in the sky. Have you ever been driving on the highway and your kid says, “Mommy, I see a rabbit” or an elephant or a race car? When you ask where, they say, “In the clouds”. Kids are able to look up and find simple joy in the clouds while we are too busy watching our feet and the ground in front of us.
In trying to be more like kids and taking time to look up at the clouds, I decided to write down a list of things that bring me joy. And I found that just writing the list brought me more joy.
When it seems as if the world is falling apart or life is just really hard, I plan to pull out this list to remember all the good stuff happening in my life and what brings me joy.
I hope you take the time to write down your own list. If you do, I’d love for you to email it to me at julie@theordinarymom.com. I’m a believer that you shouldn’t try to reinvent the wheel so feel free to “borrow” any of mine just as I may “borrow” some of yours.
I plan for my list to be ever-evolving so after more reflection and “borrowing” from you all, I might eventually have to rename it the 1,000 things that bring me joy. I might even share it with my kids so they see that I do actually have joy and appreciate things in life and I’m not always just a tired, stressed out, working mom.
Here is my list of 100 things that bring me joy (in no particular order except the first, which is the most important to me).
- My family that I was born into, the family I married into and the family that my wife and I created
- Mani-pedis
- Riding on trains
- My dog, Oliver, and also remembering my dog, Noe, who is in doggy heaven
- Corn on the cob
- When cash comes out of the ATM
- Blogging
- A full tank of gas
- A good podcast
- Public transportation
- When beds are made
- Reading the same book series as my son and discussing each chapter with him
- Portable chairs with shade and cup holders to sit in while watching my kids play sports
- Sparkling strawberry lemon Kombucha
- Learning new things through my side hustle journey
- Out of town visitors
- My dog sitting at my feet when I work from home
- A mug of hot tea at night
- Pizza
- Going on bike riding adventures with my eight-year-old daughter
- Eating artichokes leaves dipped in butter
- Hot tubs
- Thanksgiving with my extended family
- Putting on cozy pajamas
- Making a new friend
- Traveling around the world
- Umbrellas
- A good book (ideally a series)
- Sunsets
- The amazing rainbow loom creations my ten-year-old daughter makes
- A good Netflix binge
- Mountain lakes
- Monthly massages
- Watching my eight-year-old daughter discover the love of cooking
- Listening to NPR when I’m alone in the car
- Watching my kids learn new things
- When my mom says, “Keep on keeping on”
- The adventure of writing and publishing my first ebook
- A good salad and ice tea for lunch
- Taking hot baths (ideally, daily)
- Public libraries
- When a work colleague becomes a friend
- Watching my kids act in plays and/or do musical theater
- That my parents still have the same house and home phone number they have had for ~50 years
- The smell of fresh-cut grass
- Getting on the floor and giving my dog his morning scratches
- Having coffee or lunch with a friend on a workday
- Lobster anything
- Hugs from my kids
- The Ordinary Parent Facebook group
- Weekends that aren’t packed
- When one of my kids crawls into bed with me
- Having a clean house (although not the cleaning of it)
- Changing out of work clothes into something more comfortable at the end of the day
- Watching my kids compete in American Ninja Warrior competitions
- Having Siri obey my every command
- Skiing with my family
- When my dad tells a story that I’ve heard 100 times before and starts with “did you know…” or “have I ever told you…”
- Having a special TV show to watch with each of my kids
- Brussels sprouts with pancetta
- Seeing my childhood friends and realizing we haven’t really changed since we were in elementary school
- Finding money that I had stashed in my car, a pair of pants or in a bag
- Going to the movies and eating popcorn with lots of butter
- Ending a busy workday or week and feeling like I’ve worked hard and made a difference
- Weekly babysitters and date nights with my wife through thick and thin
- Ice cream
- My polka dot rain boots
- When I tell my kids I love them and they tell me it back
- My cruiser bike with lots of baskets to carry things
- Having tons of cousins of all different ages and personalities
- A good ol’ Facebook stalking of a new friend (or an old friend I just reconnected with)
- Reading the fortunes from fortune cookies and then giving the cookies to my kids to eat
- That my parents still sing the full Happy Birthday song to me every birthday when they call
- Debating the best hamburger places in the US with our kids
- Kind people
- Having someone else clean my car
- A glass of wine (pinot noir or sauvignon blanc), a beer (IPA or Amber Ale) or a really good mocktail (when I’m temporarily off the sauce)
- Our house that I love filled with people, animals and things that I love
- Fruit smoothies (but no bananas!)
- Hanging out with my nieces and nephews and watching them grow up
- Eating custard at the beach
- Surviving 90 minutes of Bikram yoga
- Fluffy, cuddly puppies
- When my oldest plays video games with his sisters instead of his friends
- Having a job that I enjoy, that pays me fairly and allows me to work with great people
- When my eight-year-old daughter brushes her hair
- People who follow up after they said they would do or send you something
- Living in a place where kids can bike to school and feel safe
- My sisters
- That my 7th grader actually likes middle school
- Expensing a grande Starbucks latte when going to a work meeting
- Staying in bed past 8 am
- Watching my ten-year-old daughter be fearless while playing goalie in soccer
- Using up gift cards that we have been given
- Eating grapefruit with a grapefruit spoon
- The dogs and people I see when I take Oliver to the dog park
- Leftover Chinese food
- That my mom sends us an anniversary card every year with a check for a grown-up dinner out
- Double-decker buses
- When I hear the “ching ching” sound on my phone because someone has Venmo’d me money
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If you make 60 I’d be glad to pinch hit on #65!